There appears to be something about obedience that I have been missing. I want to do God's will but I also want to follow my own. Why is denying yourself better than indulging? When Ada disobeys me I find it incredibly frustrating because I'm not in control of her actions. Could it be that God finds it frustrating that He isn't in control?
No, He is always in control.
Then what is the real issue? He wants me to live in reality! In reality, regardless of my obedience, God is in control. If I live in accord with His will then while I live I'll be happy while He is in control. Otherwise I will be frustrated and cursed.